"Close the doors that hurt you, no matter how beautiful the view is." 

Have you ever stayed up at night thinking about a breakup and not knowing how to start healing? You’re not alone. Breakups are really tough. They can feel like you lost a part of yourself or that your whole world is upside down. It doesn’t matter whether the relationship was short or long — when it ends, it can hurt a lot.

But even when it hurts, there’s an important thing to learn — how to let go. Letting go doesn’t mean forgetting or pretending it didn’t happen. It means finding a way to heal and move on with your life.

Why Is Letting Go So Hard?

Why is it so hard to let go of someone we love? Because when you love someone, you don’t just love them. You also love the future you imagined with them, the things you did together, and the memories you made.

Letting go is difficult because our feelings towards a person do not disappear overnight. If we have been in a relationship with someone for a long time. They would likely have been a part of our lives and daily routines.

We like to hold on to things, especially people, because they fulfill our need for certainty. They make us feel safe and sure. Even if the relationship is ending, it still feels familiar, and that makes letting go hard.

We also hold on because of past experiences, like being rejected before. This fear makes us stay with someone, even if they’re not good for us. Sometimes, we want to hold on, but the other person doesn’t. Letting go is hard when you still love them. But remember, love is also about giving freedom.

Signs You Need to Let Go Of Someone

"Stop choosing the person who isn't choosing you.”

If you recognize these signs, it might be time to ask yourself if it’s best to end the relationship for good:

• You feel tired, stressed, or drained after spending time with them.
• You’re always the one trying, starting talks, and fixing problems.
• They don’t support you or celebrate your successes.
• You feel upset or angry when you see them.
• They break your trust again and again without trying to fix it.
• You hide your true thoughts and feelings to avoid conflict.
• The relationship survives only on old memories, not present love.

Tips for Healing After a Breakup

These tips are effective for easing emotional pain and helping you move on with strength.

1. Accept Your Feelings

It’s okay to feel sad, angry, and confused. Emotions aren’t a sign of weakness; they’re part of the healing process. Don’t rush to suppress or ignore them. Let yourself cry, write down your thoughts, or talk to a trusted friend. Acceptance is the first step to letting go.

2. Talk to Someone You Trust

Don’t try to keep all your feelings inside. Share your feelings with a friend or family member who listens and cares.  You don’t need them to fix the problem — you just need them to listen. Talking can make you feel lighter and remind you that you’re not alone and more supported while you heal.

3. Take Care of Yourself

After a breakup, you might feel tired, sad, or not want to do anything. This is the time when you need to be extra kind to yourself. Eat healthy food, drink water, and get enough sleep. Try to move your body, even if it’s just a short walk. Looking after your body will also help your heart and mind feel better. The more you care for yourself now, the stronger you’ll feel later.

4. Focus on Self-Growth

Use this time after a breakup to work on yourself. Try new hobbies, learn new skills, or set small goals. Do things that make you feel proud and happy. Focusing on your own growth will help you feel stronger and more confident. It will remind you that your happiness does not depend on someone else.

5. Stop the Blame Game

After a breakup, it’s easy to blame yourself or the other person for everything that went wrong. But blaming only keeps you stuck in the past. Instead, accept that the relationship ended and focus on what you can learn from it. This will help you heal faster and move forward with a lighter heart.

6. Don’t Contact Your Ex

After a breakup, it's normal to want to text, call, and check their social media if you miss them. But talking to them can hurt your feelings again and make it harder to let it go. Give yourself time and space without contact so your heart and mind start to heal. The more distance you have, the easier it will be to move forward and feel better again.

7. Don’t Beg or Chase

It's a normal thing to want your ex back, especially if you still love them. You might feel like calling them, sending long messages, or trying to convince them to give one more chance to the relationship. But begging and chasing only make you feel more hurt and also hurt your self-respect. If someone truly wants to be with you, they won't want to be chased. Accept that the relationship has ended. Utilize your energy for some other purpose, like taking care of yourself, and fulfill your dreams. This will help you heal and make space for someone who truly values you.

8. Don’t Remember Painful Memories

Don’t remember hurtful and sad moments in your mind. You may replay fights, mistakes, and sad moments. But thinking about these painful memories again and again only makes you feel guilty. When these thoughts come, try to shift your mind into something good, focus on happy memories, and talk with close friends and family members. The more you focus on positive things, the less the bad memories will bother you.

9. Give Yourself Time to Heal

Healing after a breakup doesn’t happen overnight. Some days will feel better, and some will feel harder — and that’s okay. Be patient with yourself and let your feelings come and go. With time, the pain will feel lighter, and you’ll start to feel like yourself again.

Bottom Line

Letting go is never easy, but it’s necessary for healing and finding peace after a breakup. It’s a journey that requires patience, kindness to yourself, and the understanding that your worth is not defined by any relationship. While healing, it’s important to allow yourself to feel the pain, but also to remember that you have the strength to move forward. See this time as an opportunity to rediscover yourself, focus on your personal growth, and embrace a future full of new possibilities. You deserve happiness — and the journey of letting go is the first step toward it.